Tips on how to ground yourself.

Grounded, ungrounded. To be present, or to be untethered. For many of us, the world feels increasingly large, frightening, and impossibly difficult, forcing us to shrink into personal bubbles to protect ourselves from the madness going on outside.

And this feeling of being unhooked or drifting around without meaning or purpose? This is known as being ungrounded, and it can be a devastating reality for those who live with it for years, if not decades. 

In this article, we discuss what it means to be grounded and ungrounded, the various aspects of groundedness, and the best techniques to achieve a pure, unburdened grounded state once again.

What Does it Mean to be Grounded or Ungrounded?

If you asked for one word to explain the struggle between being grounded and being ungrounded, it would be presence.

Being grounded means being present in all three aspects: physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Physical	Mental	Spiritual
You give authority to all of your physical sensations – taste, smell, sight, hearing, and touch.	You allow your mind the space and the time to properly dissect every new thought, question, and idea you encounter.	You allow yourself to feel all your emotions, and give yourself the freedom to dissect and reshape your beliefs.

To be grounded means living inside of yourself, from your head to your fingers to your gut to your heart, and experiencing your world actively, through present sensations rather than memories and fillers.

To be grounded is to feel the world around you as it happens.

To be ungrounded is to be untethered, as if you are renting a temporary space in your mind and body instead of owning it.

It is the feeling of living as if your life is a stream that you are passively watching, rather than living with intent and activity.

Ideally, we all start in a state of “groundedness”. As children, our levels of attachment and connection with the world around us are at their peak – we experience every laugh, fight, taste, smell, and thought to its absolute.

It can be easy to confuse groundedness with intensity, but being grounded doesn’t mean being outwardly and obviously intense; it means stretching every moment and sensation out as far as it can go before moving onto the next.

Even the quietest and shy people can be (and usually are) the most grounded ones out there.

Becoming Ungrounded: How?

However, some of us slowly lose our groundedness, becoming ungrounded over time. And we can attribute this to the defense mechanism of dissociation.

We train ourselves to live outside of our realities, to mentally dissociate from our anxieties, problems, and fears.

It is a form of escapism, further exacerbated by a world that allows you endless distractions and avenues to escape and run away from the real world. 

It is fear that leads to ungroundedness, and only through the bravery to admit it and work against it can you return to a grounded state.

Do You Need Grounding Techniques?

The most important question you have to ask yourself is, will grounding techniques work for you?

When first approached with this idea, many are reluctant to admit that they can benefit from grounding.

Maybe even now, you might be reading this article on behalf of someone you know, instead of as a way to help yourself.

But grounding can help all of us.

You don’t need to have an officially-diagnosed mental breakdown or condition to find relief in certain grounding methods.

As discussed above, there are many parts of the modern lifestyle that have made it difficult for people to live in a pure, unburdened, grounded manner.

Some would say that we all experience thoughts, ideas, and feelings related to being ungrounded at some point in our lifetime, and whether you find your way back on your feet or not is a matter of how much you realize that you are experiencing your reality through an ungrounded filter.

Signs That You Are Ungrounded

It can be difficult to realize when you are in a state of ungroundedness. It’s like the analogy of a frog and a pot of boiling water: if you toss a frog in a pot of boiling water, they will notice right away and try to jump out.

But if you place a frog in a pot of room-temperature water and then slowly boil the water with the frog inside, they won’t notice the change until it’s too late and their whole body has become boiled.

Becoming ungrounded is usually a similar experience.

The differences in how we perceive and interact with the world around us are so subtly shifted, piece by piece, that we become adjusted to our ungrounded thoughts slowly over time, until they start to feel normal.

For some people who have been trapped in long-term ungroundedness, they only realize their condition when they experience something big or revelatory.

This is when we usually say that someone has “hit rock bottom”.

So what are some subtle signs that you might be ungrounded?

Physical Signs

1) Stepping on things: Most of the time, we have a good subconscious sense of the little things on the floor, whether it’s a piece of clothing or a Lego. But lately you might have experienced an inability to notice things on the floor or change in elevation, such as small steps, and you end up stepping or tripping over things several times per day.

2) Extra sensitivity to cold: You are having trouble withstanding lower temperatures that you wouldn’t even notice in the past. You find yourself needing jackets or blankets more often than before due to the cold, particularly in your extremities (fingers and toes)

3) Clumsiness: You have become incredibly clumsy. You walk into doors and walls, you bump your elbows on cabinets and drawers, you knock over items and drop things without realizing it, and your coordination has become unreliable.

Mental Signs

1) Spacing out: Hours can go by like minutes, days can go by like hours. You have recently looked at the calendar and stared in disbelief at the date, wondering: where did all those days go?

The days are starting to blend together, with no discernable or recognizable events separating them.

2) You can’t follow conversations: You seem to have lost the ability to prepare to communicate, as both the speaker and the receiver.

You find that people often don’t seem to understand what you are saying, even if you think you are explaining your mind perfectly; they claim that your sentences don’t make sense or your ideas don’t link together.

And you have trouble understanding the true thoughts and emotions of other people, and consequently, don’t know how to participate as expected in a conversation.

3) You get distracted from bigger plans or goals: You can’t seem to focus on a single objective, whether it’s a school or work project or even just a movie.

Other thoughts, worries, and anxieties pop up in your mind, making it impossible to concentrate, even though you can’t do anything about your other issues at the moment.

Spiritual or Emotional Signs

1) Extra sensitivity to interactions: You feel agitated being around people, and you can’t stand the thought of spending more time than necessary interacting even with your closest confidants.

An interaction that would mean nothing to you a few months ago can now make you shut down for the rest of the day, in tears or anxiety.

2) Heightened fear: You are more afraid than you have ever been before. Scary movies are unbearable to you now, and maybe even turning off the lights in your room at night is too much to handle. You are also more aware of your own mortality and have become afraid of activities that might hurt or injure you.

3) Excessive daydreaming: On top of spacing out, you also find yourself constantly entering other worlds and realities in your mind.

You have lost hours or entire days just staring at a blank screen, window, or wall, passively dreaming up the unreal.

You can spend so much time doing this because you no longer care so much about your real-world goals and desires.

Grounding Techniques

The good thing is that being untethered isn’t a permanent state of being. In fact, internalizing your ungroundedness is the first step to reclaiming control.

It’s a signal for your brain, body, and soul that you’re ready to pay attention again, to experience things in their purest form, without taking them for granted.

In the following sections, we are going to break down tried-and-tested grounding techniques that you (or your loved ones) could follow.

Because “groundedness” is a tri-faceted condition, we included physical, mental, and spiritual techniques that will help you zoom in on the facet you feel is the weakest. 

Whether you only have one lacking area or you need a complete recalibration, these techniques can help put things back into focus.

Physical Grounding Techniques

The Goal: The five physical senses are a reminder of the present. Every sensation you experience right now translates into your existence in this very point in time.

It’s an opportunity to engage with your surroundings and pick apart their tangible qualities, and use those to anchor your own state of being. 

Picking apart the qualities of a certain object or phenomenon, and registering these through the senses, allows the brain to understand facts for what they are.

Main Technique: Earthing

What’s interesting about the earthing technique is that it is a mix of the physical and the mental, because only through the mind-body connection can you truly cleanse your soul.

But what does earthing mean? Simple: take off your shoes and walk barefoot in the nature around you.

Whether that means driving to a nearby park or just going out to your backyard, it is important for you to touch the world.

Because ask yourself: when was the last time you were actually surrounded by the living earth? We spend all our lives in concrete jungles, so much so that we forget that our world is a place with life all around us.

Remove your socks, your shoes, and all the uncomfortable and tight clothing separating you from your environment. Then walk outside and feel the soil, the grass, the plants between your toes; the wind on your skin. 

It has been found that people who regularly walk barefoot on the earth report higher levels of happiness and good health, and the science is quite simple: it is important to stay connected to the world, to remember that we live on a living planet, not a dead one.

One that exists beyond our own petty little faults and concerns, one that is much, much bigger than what our single life will ever be.

Other Techniques:

 Sweat: Sweat. Exercise. Work out. Push your body in a way that you haven’t in years. Exercise and running around comes naturally to us as children, but for many adults, exercise becomes a thing of the past. We lose touch with our body, and thus the mind becomes isolated. There is nothing more important than revitalizing that bond, and remembering that “we” exist just as much in the muscles and bones in our body as we do in our mind.

Be kind to yourself: You might have recently failed something or screwed up, or even disappointed a boss, a friend, or a lover. Don’t be cruel to yourself; like anyone else, you need the acknowledgment that the most important person in your life has forgiven you, and that person is you. Take the time to pull yourself aside and ask yourself: have you forgiven yourself for all the wrong you have done? Only after forgiveness can you truly move on.

Plan something fun: Think of something new. A small adventure to a beach you’ve never seen, a nice dinner at a new restaurant you want to try, or a movie or museum or water park or anything else. Imagine what you will wear on the day, imagine what your itinerary might be, and imagine who would go with you. Plan every little detail, even if you don’t think it will ever happen. See yourself as a part of your physical world, and remember the way the world can stimulate your mind and soul.

Grounding: The Bravery to be Present, Mindful, and Here

We’ve listed quite a few grounding techniques you can try; find one that works for you and stick with it.

But remember: the most important thing as you attempt these techniques is for you to be brave.

These techniques will be difficult. For some people, they might even feel impossible. Your mind will initially tell you that what you are doing is a waste of time, and none of these techniques will make you feel better.

But there is a reason why you have become ungrounded. You have dissociated yourself from your mind and body, and you have become accustomed to the defense mechanism of leaving the sincerity of your presence when the going gets tough.

You have to work against the internal habits that led to your ungrounding, and it will take time. 

It will also be frightening. You might feel anxious, embarrassed, ashamed. You will feel a number of things as your mind and body reject your attempts to return to an entirely present self.

But only through this training can you once again become grounded, and learn to live as a truly whole person.