In this post, I’m going
to describe the strategies that I’ve used to let go of self-doubt and build my
confidence.
So if you want to let
go of self-doubt, build your
confidence and believe in yourself more, then you’ll love this
new blog post.
Let’s dive right in…
1)
Observe your mind and know when to say stop
If you’re reading this
article, I’m guessing self-doubt bubbles up frequently.
And we all know that
negative thoughts can spiral out of control quickly.
So before it goes down
that path, when you feel doubt bubbling up for you, pay attention to the
thoughts and feelings you are experiencing and decide to put a stop to it.
Don’t let it go on.
By stopping what you
are doing and paying attention to what you are thinking, you give yourself a
chance to change your thoughts and feel better.
Doing this forces you
to observe your mind and recognize when you’re thinking negatively.
This was crucial for
me. Until I consciously became aware of what’s going on in my mind, I didn’t
realize how many negative thoughts were cycling around my mind on automation.
So take the time to
stop and observe what’s going on. Don’t get angry at yourself when you notice
negative thoughts and you can’t change them. That will only make them stronger.
Instead, acknowledge
them and try to focus your mind on the present moment.
Remember, the first
step to changing these negative thought patterns is being aware of them.
Spiritual Master Osho
has some great advice on what observing the mind means and how to go about it.
In this passage, he
explains the importance of recognizing that you and your thoughts are separate,
and the benefits that arise if you’re able to do this:
“Become an observer of
the currents of thought that flow through your consciousness. Just like someone
sitting by the side of a river watching the river flow by, sit by the side of
your mind and watch. Or just as someone sits in the forest and watches a line
of birds flying by, just sit and watch. Or the way someone watches the rainy
sky and the moving clouds, you just watch the clouds of thoughts moving in the
sky of your mind. The flying birds of thoughts, the flowing river of thoughts
in the same way, silently standing on the bank, you simply sit and watch. It is
the same as if you are sitting on the bank, watching the thoughts flowing by.
Don’t do anything, don’t interfere, don’t stop them in any way. Don’t repress
in any way. If there is a thought coming don’t stop it, if it is not coming
don’t try to force it to come. You are simply to be an observer….
“In that simple
observation you will see and experience that your thoughts and you are separate
– because you can see that the one who is watching the thoughts is separate
from the the thoughts, different from them. And you become aware of this, a
strange peace will envelop you because you will not have any more worries. You
can be in the midst of all kinds of worries but the worries will not be yours.
You can in the midst of many problems but the problems will not be yours. You
can be surrounded by thoughts but you will not be the thoughts…
“And if you become
aware that you are not your thoughts, the life of these thoughts will begin to
grow weaker, they will begin to become more and more lifeless. The power of
your thoughts lies in the fact that you think they are yours. When you are
arguing with someone you say, “My thought is”. No thought is yours. All thoughts
are different from you, separate from you. You just be a witness to them.”
2)
Remember, there is no right or wrong
Some people lack so
much self-confidence that they question the decision they’ve made weeks after
they’ve made it.
I’ve been there, and it
isn’t a fun way to live life.
Did you know that humans on average, can have anywhere from 12,000 to
60,000 negative thoughts per day? Pretty remarkable, right?
But here’s the real
kicker:
According to neuroscience, the brain is not
designed to create happiness. It’s actually designed to survive, which is why
we may have so many negative thoughts and constantly question our decisions.
But you need to realize
that it’s impossible to always make the right decision.
There are so many
variables and unforeseen circumstances that you can’t possibly figure out
whether any decision is correct.
So many of us
experience crippling anxiety
over the process of making decisions.
We ask ourselves
whether we’ve considered all of the available information.
But it’s impossible to
consider everything as there is an infinite amount of information available.
The point is this:
If you have
self-confidence, you’ll get away with doing the wrong things, anyway.
According to Alan Watts
in the brilliant video below, a great strategy to learn to back yourself is to
regard yourself as a cloud in the flesh.
Why?
Because clouds never
make mistakes. Have you ever seen an imperfect cloud?
If you treat yourself
as a cloud, you’ll realize that you can’t make a mistake no matter what you do.
In this way, you can
develop your self-confidence and your ability to trust your intuition.
Watch this Alan Watt’s
video. It is incredible advice (it only goes for 3 minutes).
3)
Ask, “What are the chances?”
When you are feeling doubtful,
think about how many times in the past that your doubt came to fruition
regardless of whatever it is that you are worried about.
Through some
reflection, you’ll come to find that your worries are not founded. It’s better
to just bet on the times you didn’t mess up.
The truth is, what we
worry about usually never happens. I know that to be the case for me.
Self-doubts and worries
are usually created by an over-anxious mind that focuses on the downside.
If you look at the past
and realize that your worries never come to fruition, you’ll be more easily
able to focus on the present moment and what you can do right now.
Also, looking into the
past will help you see that worrying really serves no purpose, particularly
when you have no control over the situation.
The Dalai Lama says it
best:
“If a problem is
fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there
is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying.
There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
4)
Talk it out with a friend.
If you aren’t able to
make sense of your thoughts and feelings on your own, talk to a friend or
family member who will give you the space to talk things out.
There’s no point in
talking to someone if they aren’t going to understand where you are coming from
so choose your talking partner wisely.
As we mentioned above,
when our thoughts are kept to ourselves, they tend to become distorted and
overly negative.
So to get your mind back in line
with reality and reasonable expectations, speak your thoughts with someone
else.
When you heat it out
loud you might realize how far-fetched and ridiculous your doubts sound.
And by talking over
your doubts with someone else they can support you in helping you to see
reality for what it is.
5)
Write down your thoughts or talk to someone about it
This is probably the
most critical strategy that has helped me.
Over the last year,
I’ve written down my thoughts once a week on everything that has been going on
in my life.
I’m the kind of guy who
finds it hard to express my emotions, so journaling has been an excellent
outlet.
It’s helped me clear my
mind, understand my emotions and figure out what’s essential in my life.
In the Harvard Health Blog, Jeremy Nobel, MD, MPH says that when
people write about what’s in their hearts and minds, they better make sense of
the world and themselves:
“Writing provides a
rewarding means of exploring and expressing feelings. It allows you to make
sense of yourself and the world you are experiencing. Having a deeper
understanding of how you think and feel — that self-knowledge — provides you
with a stronger connection to yourself.”
Because
when we keep our thoughts inside, they end up becoming distorted and not in
line with reality.
And
you and I both know that negative thoughts can spiral out of control quickly.
So let them out. Try to
understand them.
By expressing yourself
to someone (or by writing it down), you’ll structure your thoughts and see them
for what they are.
You can start to see
how exaggerated those thoughts have become.
This study
in 2017 found that expressive writing helps reduce error-related negativity.
Clearing your mind of
your worries will enable you to see reality for what it is, and help you understand
that these thoughts of self-doubt haven’t got a basis to stand on.
Here
are 3 reasons I’ve found journaling to be helpful:
1) It helps you express
your thoughts. This will structure your thoughts and get them in line with
reality. It will help you gain clarity.
2) You’ll keep an
accurate record of what’s happening in your life. As we mentioned above, our
mind can often spiral out of control and focus on the negative. But by keeping
a journal, you’ll realize that there’s a lot in your life that you can be
thankful for, and there’s a lot of things that you’re doing that you can be
proud of.
3) When I’ve mentioned
before that I write down my thoughts once a week, many people ask me how I go
about it.
I tend to just
freestyle about my goals, the issues I’m facing and what’s important in life.
But I realize that this
isn’t for everyone. So keeping a journal of day-to-day events makes it easy to
figure out what to write about it as it will get you in the rhythm.
6)
Don’t compare yourself to others
It is easy to get
caught up in doubt when you see how great other people are doing.
If you find that you
are feeling down or self-conscious about yourself after cruising social media,
get off.
If you see what other
people are doing, stop looking at their life and look to your own for evidence
of great things.
On Facebook, you only
see people’s highlight reels. After all, why would someone share anything
negative about their life on Facebook?
Theodore Roosevelt said
that comparison is the thief of joy and research has suggested that you’re more
likely to lose joy when your comparisons take place online.
This is because you
compare your normal life to other people’s highlight reels, which just isn’t in
line with the reality of their life.
And in the end, there’s
no point comparing yourself to others. We all have different circumstances
in life.
Spiritual Master
Osho says that instead of caring what other people think
about you, you should instead look inside yourself:
“Nobody can say
anything about you. Whatsoever people say is about themselves. But you become
very shaky because you are still clinging to a false center. That false center
depends on others, so you are always looking at what people are saying about
you. And you are always following other people, you are always trying to
satisfy them. You are always trying to be respectable, you are always trying to
decorate your ego. This is suicidal. Rather than being disturbed by what others
say, you should start looking inside yourself…
“Whenever you are
self-conscious you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at
all. You don’t know who you are. If you had known, then there would have been
no problem— then you are not seeking opinions. Then you are not worried what
others say about you— it is irrelevant!”
“When you are
self-conscious you are in trouble. When you are self-conscious you are really
showing symptoms that you don’t know who you are. Your very self-consciousness
indicates that you have not come home yet.”
“The greatest fear in
the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the
crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your
heart, the roar of freedom.”
7)
Remember, people don’t care what you say or do
So many of us are
concerned with how we appear to others. It’s like we judge ourselves through
their eyes.
I’ve been a lot like
this, and I’m guessing that you have been too.
But what we need to
realize is that most people only care about themselves. They’re more worried
about what’s happening in their own life. They’re not focusing on you and what
you’re doing.
8)
Don’t take things personally
If you feel like the
victim in your own life, you need to stop and think about how you let other
people impact your outlook on life.
For example, if someone
makes a snide remark about you, logic would dictate that it’s a reflection of
their own self-worth.
But in many cases, we
think illogically about these things and feel like we are being attacked.
In fact, research by a Wake Forest University
psychology professor found that what you say about others says a lot about you.
“Your perceptions of
others reveal so much about your own personality”, says Dustin Wood, assistant
professor of psychology at Wake Forest and lead author of the study.
“A huge suite of
negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively”.
So if you take these
results to heart, there is literally no point in taking things personally.
What people say about
you clearly says more about themselves than anything to do with you.
9)
Change your perspective to be more optimistic
Self-doubt is negative.
So why not choose to be more optimistic?
I know, it’s easier
said than done.
But if you recognize
every time you have a negative thought and you consciously try to change it to
be more positive, you’ll start to rewire your brain to naturally think more
positive.
A great way to train
your brain to be more positive is to reflect on your day before you go to sleep
and think of 3 positive things that happened that day.
Whether it’s a great
workout, a friend buying you a coffee, or a phone call with your parents, just
scan your day and write down what made you happy. Even the smallest things are
worth writing down.
In fact, many studies recently have found that people
who consciously count what they’re grateful for tend to be less depressed and
happier in general.
According to UCLA,
expressing gratitude (being thankful and appreciative) literally changes the
molecular structure of the brain.
Thrive Global describes how gratitude can
boost feel-good chemicals in the brain:
“In the study the
researchers measured brain activity of participants experiencing different
emotions, and found that gratitude causes synchronized activation in multiple
brain regions, and lights up parts of the brain’s reward pathways and the
hypothalamus. In short, just like Prozac, gratitude can boost neurotransmitter
serotonin and activate the brain stem to produce dopamine.”
10)
Remember, you’re not a failure just because you failed
When you experience a
setback, it’s easy to get sucked into negativity.
“I’m hopeless. “I
always fail.” “I’ll never try anything new again.”
You don’t need to think
like this. Failure is a necessary stepping stone to success. Without failure,
society wouldn’t have achieved anything.
It takes effort and grit,
but it’s important to embrace failure and see it as an opportunity to learn.
11)
Improve your skills.
Becoming good at
something, even if it’s just a hobby, gives you an enormous amount of
confidence.
So find something you
like doing and practice it.
Maybe it’s tennis.
Perhaps it’s knitting. Whatever it is, work on it and have fun with it.
In no time, you’ll be
competent in your new-found skill. And as a result, self-confidence will flow
your way.
What to say when you
talk to yourself: Self-talk and why it matters
“What you think, you
will become.”
I’ve always believed
that everything in our lives is determined by two things:
the way we treat
ourselves, and
the way
we let others treat us
Yes, other people’s
words have power. But what they say is not nearly as powerful as the words we
tell ourselves.
Because before you can
blossom on the “outside,” you first need to grow the seeds from the “inside.”
The way we manifest in
the world is a direct reflection of the way we see ourselves. And this starts
in our inner dialogue.
If you keep thinking
you’re a failure, that’s exactly what you’ll become. If you keep telling
yourself you’re going to make it, you eventually will.
That’s because our
perception creates our reality.
So how do we cultivate
a healthy and loving perception of ourselves?
It’s simple. You just
have to change the way you talk to yourself.
In this article, we’ll
go through the importance of “self-talk,” overcoming your conditioning, and
what to say when you talk to yourself.
Self-talk: Why it’s
important
What is self-talk?
Self-talk is our
internal dialogue. It is something we do naturally throughout our conscious
moments. It reveals our innermost thoughts, beliefs, fears, and ideas.
The way we talk to
ourselves is important because it affects the way we feel about ourselves,
about the things we can achieve in life, how we’re viewed by others, and how we
interact with the world.
There’s quite a large
body of research that supports the importance of our inner dialogues.
In one study published in The Sport Psychologist,
researchers found that athletes use self-talk for a “cognitive and
motivational” boost, while a separate study proves that motivational self-talk
helps increase performance in young athletes.
So you see, how we talk
and what we say to ourselves affect not only our chances of success, but it can
also significantly boost how we pursue our goals.
Author and psychologist
Charles Fernyhough explains:
“Inner speech has a lot
of different functions. It has a role in motivation, it has a role in emotional
expression, it probably has a role in understanding our selves as selves.”
Our thoughts literally
become our motivation. And the way we talk to ourselves plays a huge part in
how we perform in life.
How our inner dialogues
are developed
Before we continue,
it’s important to understand the reasons why you talk to yourself the way you
do.
I don’t know about you,
but I sometimes find myself confused by my inner dialogue. I am often at odds
with what my first thoughts are compared to how I believe I should be thinking.
Then I found this quote
by an unknown person that completely put things into perspective:
“The first thought that
goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think; what you
think next defines who you are.”
Underneath it all,
we’ve all been programmed to think a certain way since we’ve been born:
First, our parents
shaped our earliest perceptions of the world
I was raised in a
supportive home, exchanging loving and encouraging external dialogue with my
parents. I was praised when I did something right. And I was told off when I
did something wrong.
But not everyone is as
lucky. Some people grow up in an intensely critical household. Some grew up
being silenced repeatedly. While others are encouraged never to think for
themselves.
Because of my
upbringing, I was able to develop kinder and loving self-talk. However, those
who were raised in toxic households end up with negative self-talk.
Then, society
influenced our developing perceptions
And then we “go out
into” the world where our society imposes its ideals on us:
What success and beauty
look like, what happiness means, how we should dress, act, and speak.
As social beings, our
first instinct is to conform. We want to belong, to be validated. And if we
don’t reach these strict standards, we become critical of ourselves.
This too shapes our inner
dialogue. In the end, you might simply be perpetuating what you’ve seen and
learned your whole life.
So it’s okay if you’re
confused. It’s not your fault. You’ve just been conditioned to self-talk the
way you do.
The important thing is
that you’re willing to make that drastic change now.
Kindness in self-talk
People will tell you to
practice “positive” self-talk and get rid of your “negative” self-talk.
But I don’t believe in
categorizing our thoughts and emotions in those two distinctive categories. I think
it’s unforgiving and dismissive of our complicated human tendencies.
It’s like saying one
thing is right and you should keep doing it, while the other thing is wrong and
dismissing it. This is not productive and will not let you grow.
So first off:
None of your thoughts
are wrong.
Everything that goes
through your head is valid and useful. It’s only how you process your
thoughts and speak to yourself that drives the results.
What I propose instead,
is to develop “kinder” self-talk.
Be encouraging, but forgiving.
Be constructive, but less critical. Acknowledge your deepest fears and most
shameful thoughts, but don’t let them fill every dialogue.
It doesn’t matter if
you believe it or not, what matters is that you give yourself a chance.
What I’m trying to say
is:
Talk to yourself like
you’re someone you love.
15 things to say when
you talk to yourself
Some people call it
inner dialogue, self-talk, or affirmations. What they are, are kind reminders
that you’re doing your best. Here are 15 things to say when you’re talking to
yourself.
1.
“I believe in you”
You won’t always
succeed. In fact, you will fail a lot. But that doesn’t mean you’ll always keep
failing. Tell yourself you believe in you. You have great personal power within
you. It’s enough to tell yourself it’s there.
2.
“I’m responsible for my life”
Instead of complaining
and whining to yourself, say one simple thing: “I take responsibility for my
life.” This phrase will immediately make a strong impression—it says you still
have control. You might not be able to control everything, but you’re still in
control of your reactions.
3.
“I am loved”
How many times have you
felt rejected? How many times have you told yourself you’re not good enough?
You’re wrong. You are loved. Don’t count how many people you have in your life.
Count the quality of the company you keep. You are more loved than you think.
4.
“I did it for love”
Life is too short to
spend regretting the decisions you made, especially the ones you made out of
love. You followed your heart. There are worse decisions to make than doing the
things you were passionate about.
5.
“I’m going after what I want”
Never apologize for
living your life your way. Remind yourself this is exactly what you
want. Then go for it. And if you end up regretting it, remember that it
felt right at one point.
6.
“My instincts are right”
Learning to trust your
instincts is the biggest gift you can give to yourself. Every fiber of your
being is doing its best to tell you something. Listen to your body. Perhaps not
everyone will agree with you, but remind yourself it’s your life. You’re free
to follow what your gut tells you.
7.
“It doesn’t hurt if I try”
There are times you
will tell yourself it’s not a good idea. You will be so good at convincing
yourself, that you end up not doing it. But remind yourself this: It doesn’t
hurt if you try. There’s a certain kind of peace in knowing that you gave it
your best.
8.
“I deserve better”
You will say, “This is
the best I can get.” When you hear this, remind yourself you deserve better.
You decide how high your standards should be. Tell yourself you shouldn’t
settle for less than you deserve.
9.
“I am strong enough”
Life will hurt. There
are challenges that may seem too hard for you to get through. But remind
yourself you’re strong enough anyway. You may feel strong just then, but
this reminder is enough to get you moving one step at a time.
10.
“I’m allowed to speak up”
You’re the only one
stopping yourself from saying things out loud. If it truly matters to you, you
will speak up for it. You will live a sad life if you keep living it in
silence.
11.
“I am grateful”
When you feel like you
have nothing, tell yourself to be grateful. Look around. Some people have less
than you and they are happy. You have more than enough. If you’re angry at the
world for not giving you what you want, find other things to be grateful for.
12.
“I deserve to let go of what’s hurting me”
When you’re in doubt,
remind yourself you’re allowed to let things go when they’re no longer
contributing positive things to your life. Yes, change is scary, but better
things are ahead. Don’t waste your time keeping things and people who are
hurting you deliberately. They’re only dragging you down.
13.
“I am important”
No matter what others
say, no matter how they make you feel, don’t ever forget you’re important.
You’re relevant. And no one else can tell you you’re inferior but
you. So in times that you’re feeling invisible, remind yourself you
matter, too.
14.
“I am capable”
When you’re feeling not
up to the task, remember, you’re capable. You might not know exactly what to
do, but that’s because you haven’t learned it yet. But once you give
yourself a chance to learn, you are capable of any task put in front of you.
15.
“I am making a difference”
You don’t need to change
the world. You don’t even need to change your whole life. But
you can create small, actionable changes for the better. Praise
yourself, even if it’s a small thing. Celebrate your wins. Every day, you are
evolving. Every day, you are growing.
What
productive self-talk is not
Self-talk is
empowering, yes. It can make your life better.
But self-talk is not
lying. It’s not exaggerating.
Self-talk isn’t
creating a reality that doesn’t have a basis.
Depression specialist
and bestselling author Gregory Jantz explains it best when he says:
“Positive self-talk is
not self-deception. It is not mentally looking at circumstances with eyes that
see only what you want to see. Rather, positive self-talk is about recognizing
the truth, in situations and in yourself. One of the fundamental truths is that
you will make mistakes. To expect perfection in yourself or anyone else is
unrealistic. To expect no difficulties in life, whether through your own
actions or sheer circumstances, is also unrealistic.
When I say “positive”
self-talk, it doesn’t mean you have to only focus on the good of the situation
while ignoring the negative aspects.
Yes, you can find
optimism in any situation—and you should. But you should also look at things at
face value.
Yes, you shouldn’t
focus on your failures, but don’t ignore the lessons they taught you.
Yes, you shouldn’t
self-criticize, but that doesn’t mean you can’t self-analyze.
In short, one-sided
self-talk won’t help. In fact, it can be even destructive and could prevent you
from learning and growing.
So be careful not to
overdo it. Like a lot of things in life, do it with balance.
Don’t forget to look at
your external-talk, too
Naturally, our
internal dialogue can manifest in the way we speak to others as well.
Ask yourself, how do
you come off to people when you speak? Are you sarcastic, critical, cynical,
pessimistic, or downright hostile?
Do you call yourself
names out loud? Names like stupid, idiot, or worse?
Notice the way you talk
to others. Do you speak to them kindly or do you put them down as much as you
put yourself down?
To you, it may seem
like you’re just showing a sarcastic sense of humor. But others may think
differently. It’s easy to think that our internal dialogues will be kept just
that—internally, that it won’t be seen by others.
But you’re wrong.
Even when you only
berate yourself out loud, people will still view you negatively.
Remember, what you
put in, you get out. If you work on yourself from the inside-out, your
interactions will change positively, too.
5
extra habits to develop to create healthy self-talk
1.
Stop overthinking
Overthinking is the
root of all evil. If you want to create a kinder and healthier
self-dialogue, you need to stop overthinking.
When you ruminate, you
keep replaying negative situations in your head. True, it’s good to think
through situations and problems to find lessons and solutions.
But overthinking tends
to magnify small issues until they become bigger than they actually
are.
So let it go. There’s
no use nitpicking every single thing you said or did.
2.
Language counts
According to research,
it’s not just about what you say to yourself, it’s also about the language
you’re using.
A 2014 study suggests that you should refer to
yourself in third-person when you’re talking to yourself. This will
allow you to take a step back and look at your thoughts and emotions
objectively. It also helps reduce anxiety and stress.
Professor and public
speaker Brené Brown, for example, says that she calls her negative thoughts as “gremlins.”
She explains that by giving her negative voices a name, she gets to step away
and poke fun at them.
3.
Don’t speak badly of others
If you don’t have
anything nice or useful to say, don’t say it.
First, apply this to
yourself. Then, apply it to how you speak of others.
Generally, we are
harsher to ourselves than we are to other people. If we speak so critically of
others, we’re so much more critical to ourselves.
So try this: before you
criticize others, think of 3 genuine compliments you can give them instead.
You’ll start feeling great about yourself.
4.
Listen
Try to listen to your
internal dialogue constructively. How do you sound to yourself?
What common phrases or
words do you repeatedly tell yourself? Look at those patterns. Examine why they
keep reoccurring.
Figure out the reasons
why you talk like that, and you can work on fixing whatever it is.
Next, ask yourself,
would you find it okay if you talk to your family or friends that way?
You’ll be surprised by
the answer.
5.
Take a minute to think it through
The
mind loves to analyze.
And that’s a good
thing. That’s how we solve problems and make sense of everything around us.
But that could also be
a double-edged sword. The mind can also make up things that aren’t there.
In these cases, you
need to make sure that you’re looking at things objectively.
So ask yourself these
questions:
Am I simply
overreacting? Will this even be important a week, a month, or a year from now?
Am I jumping to
conclusions? Do I have all the information to think this way? Or am I reacting
based on my opinions or past experiences?
Am I assuming? Is
this the real situation or is this person really thinking this way?
Am I viewing this
one-sidedly? Have I looked at all the angles?
How real is
this? Is this accurate? Am I only making it up?
Allow yourself a minute
to really look at situations for what they are instead of jumping the gun.
Develop a habit of self-reflection. Try to quiet your mind and get rid of your
biases first.
Takeaway
There’s no downside to
this. If you cultivate honest and loving conversations with yourself, you can
never lose.
Dragging yourself down,
meanwhile, will only lead you to more sorrow.
It’s so easy to
automate our internal dialogue. If we’re used to talking to ourselves
negatively, every situation will become negative.
It’s a dangerous habit
that you should immediately get rid of. It’s difficult to overcome years of
conditioning, but take one simple step first: try to talk to yourself like
someone you love.
If you work on having
healthy self-talk, your encounters in life will be more meaningful and you’ll
create a beautiful life built from a foundation of grace and acceptance.
And one last piece of
advice:
You may not be able to
control everything that happens, but you can control how you react!
